There's a lot of press being given to 'alpha males' and how successful they are with women, friends and work. What, exactly, is an alpha male, and how can the average Joe become one? This easy checklist will have you well on your way.
You know those guys. The ones that always get the beautiful girl, even if they don't seem especially charming or manly. The men who are always the center of attention, surrounded by others no matter if it's a club or an office party. Men that exude charm, confidence and wit. It might seem a tall order to morph into an alpha male, but becoming an alpha male is fairly simple. Here's how:
Believing Is Being: An alpha male is a role. You take on the role. This means: confidence in yourself. Even going over the top, and becoming over-confident or cocky. Starting out, you might feel like an impostor but once you get into the practice it eventually is you. Alpha male behavior is all about loud, proud and sure of yourself. When you believe it, others will literally follow your lead.
Dress the Part: You don't have to go out on a wild tuxedo shopping spree to acquire alpha male status, but you do have to be worded-up on trends. Follow the general fashions and tailor it to your style. You can add quirk (2nd-hand T-shirts that proclaim you're irresistible, for example) but look your best. Be a trend-setter, not a wallflower.
Cheeky, Cheeky: The more obnoxious, the better. Tell women you're attracted to why. Bluntly. You don't have to be rude, but a little raw wit goes a long way. Think of the phrase 'treat em mean, keep em keen' as a mantra. Girls love to love the bad boy. All of the alpha male traits (assertive, lion personalities, magnetic) fall into the bad boy stereotype.
Bury the Wimp: If you used to always agree with your boss, or kowtow to friends- stop. Alpha male characteristics fall into the do, not follow category. Go from passive to active. You are who you appear to be- if you start leading, you'll get a following. Again, you don't have to go over the top. Becoming an alpha male shouldn't involve you losing your job, but getting more respect.
Get Out There: Telling yourself in the mirror at home you're an alpha male isn't going to make it true. It will take some practice, trial and error to find the alpha male style that works for you. It might not happen overnight, but you will see changes in how other people start reacting to your new alpha male you.
It might seem surprising or deceptively easy to become an alpha male, but it's based on a very simple psychology. The more confident you are, the more attractive and popular you become. The more noticeable you are, the more people take notice. Your alpha male traits are there, under the surface. Isn't it time to let your alpha male loose?