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It will probably come as quite a surprise to both men and women that nagging isn't necessarily a bad thing. Nagging can actually be good for your relationship. The main problem lies in the way we think of 'nagging,' as something annoying and negative. It has its uses, and can help cement your relationship and even make it stronger. Here are some ways nagging can improve your relationship:
- It Shows That You Care. Nagging someone to pick up after themselves, to repair the leaky faucet or to finally sign up for that class you've been raving about tells your partner that you care. The more attention to details about you, the more they're thinking about you. It also helps with improving the quality of the atmosphere in your home- a tidy, kept up home and mind are a source of security. It's better that someone nags you than doesn't notice at all.
- It Opens Communication. Nagging can also be good for your relationship by opening up communication. It could be a form of affection, or a gateway into dealing with other problems in the relationship. Some relationships need nagging to start a difficult conversation, others have a hard time expressing emotions and use nagging as a tool to let you know how they feel.
- It Can Lead To Intimacy. In some situations, nagging can be good for your relationship's intimacy. When nagging leads to a small, minor spat it naturally leads into making up. Which is part of the fun in arguing. No healthy relationship goes without its disagreements and personal annoyances- a relationship without spice is dead on its feet. Using nagging as a way to get your partners attention, or to work out the things that drive you crazy is great for solidifying your connection.
- It Makes You Feel Better. Holding in your feelings, or just doing what the other person should do instead of asking is asking for trouble. You're either completely pent-up, and will probably explode irrationally over something minor, or you're building up resentment as the martyr. That in turn makes you feel taken advantage of and under-appreciated. Nagging is good to use for your relationship when you ask for equal investment- that they take care of their responsibilities, too. In the end, you'll both feel better.
Nagging has a bad reputation, with the stereotypical 'harping' wife, always complaining. Generally, though, it can be both necessary and good for your relationship to nag. As long as you're doing it for the right reasons, and as long as you're not over-doing it, nagging really can be a good. Especially if that leaky faucet's dripping is driving you mad.
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