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 It's the moment most men dread- the woman of your dreams is standing across the room, by herself, and you freeze up. You give yourself a lot of excuses on why you shouldn't even bother approaching her. The opportunity slips past and in moments she's speaking to another man. Here are some secret tips to overcoming your nervousness with women successfully.
Approaching a beautiful woman isn't easy. Sometimes even just the thought of it can make your hands clammy with fear. While it may seem so many other men are successful at being cool, calm and collected in speaking with women, the truth is that they simply hide their nervousness better. There are a few very simple rules to follow to gain the confidence you need and overcome your nervousness for good.
You Are What You Wear. Clothes may not make the man, but they will send her signals from across the room. The more confident you are in your appearance, the more ease you'll have in saying that first 'Hello.' It might seem a no-brainer, but cleanliness goes miles. Fingernails, hair, teeth and cologne- not to mention the obvious clean clothes- all tell her you take care of yourself. You don't have to go over the top, keep it comfortable but stylish.
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It Really Is All In the Mind. As clichéd as it is, mind over matter matters when it comes to being confident. And confidence is extremely attractive. Creating a positive outcome before you even approach a beautiful woman gives you more of an edge. Holding yourself straight, walking calmly over to her and saying hello with a smile and eye contact will follow, and you'll be chatting with her before you know it. Without feeling nervous at all.
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Don't Believe the Hype. Yes, there are tons of How-To books out there, that tell you pick up lines actually work as an ice-breaker or that playing it cool piques her interest. Generally, those tips do work- in the opposite way. You'll lose her interest immediately if you put on a pretense. Women love sincerity and like feeling special. Using a pick up line makes her think you've used it hundreds of times. Playing it cool makes her think you aren't interested. Be yourself.
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Beware of Bad Signals. Body language speaks much louder than words. Wiping your hands, slouching, stuttering, avoiding eye contact or staring are all approach no-nos. Telling a beautiful woman she's beautiful isn't original, but yawn-worthy. Before saying hello, find something else to compliment her on. It could be her clothing, a piece of jewelry, her hair. Whatever compliment you decide on, make sure you mean it. Women can sense insecurity and insincerity a mile away.
It might be true that some men are more successful at approaching women without nervousness, but it isn't true that that man can't be you. By using these few secret tips on approaching beautiful women, you'll gain confidence and get rid of your nervousness for good.
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